1. Do not marry or go into
relationship with someone you don’t have sexual feelings for!
Sexual feeling is not
a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the
success of any marriage and relationship. Any individual you don't have emotional
feelings for, don't marry that person for any other reason: Rich, good looking, educated etc. If you don't have
emotional feelings for that man or woman, leave them alone. You will have sex!
You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So,
marry only someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy
your marriage and relationship till forever
2. Don’t go into relationship with or marry someone
who is not open to learning!
Marriage is a great
institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry
your 'school mate’ someone who is ready to learn with you. Go into relationship
with or marry someone only you can learn and improve together. Don't marry ‘Mr.
Know all' or 'Miss Know all'. Don't marry someone who is rigid and not open to
new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations.
3. Don’t go into
relationship or marry someone who is incommunicado!
Marry or relate with
only someone you can speak and reason together. Communication is very crucial
in every relationship. Don't marry someone that, when you are saying 'A' he or
she will be saying 'Z.' once there is dichotomy in your speaking and
understanding pattern, you can't enjoy the relationship anymore. So many men go
to bar to hang out with friends after work, then gist till 11pm because they
know their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion if they
are home. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they
know their husband’s understanding is low when it comes to vital issues and
discussions. Marry and relate with speaking Mate only.
4. Do not relate with or get married with someone who is not generous!
Don't marry or go into
relationship with a partner who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater
for in marriage and relationship. A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly
become a generous husband in marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the
financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my
money'. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labor, who is ready to work,
not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry or
relate with only someone who is ready to spend for the growth and success of
the relationship.
5. Do not marry
someone you won't be proud to go out with!
Don't marry or go into
relationship with someone you will be feeling shy of to introduce to people.
Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are
socially compatible with. Don't marry or relate with an anti-social person.
You might be tempted
to ask: if you can find all the these and other attributes in one person. Yes!
The answer is YES! You don't need to marry 5 guys or ladies, one person can be
all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be
all that for your partner.
Stay blessed.
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